I wanted to update my blog this afternoon but I didn't have the time to do so. lol.
Here's the post for today! Enjoy!

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A few days ago I was in the car with my dad and all of a sudden (out of curiosity) I asked him. "D, have you ever had other girlfriends other than mommy?"

He : yes I did
Me: *feels quite weird because when you see your mom and dad, you usually feel as though
they've been together forever* REALLY? Before or after?
He: After
Me: HA?!?!?! What you mean AFTER?
He: I met your mom while we were still in form 4 at a party. We started dating then, and
there was a time she had another bf while she was still with me. You know? the NERDY guy
I told you about?
Me: yaya, I remember. The Nerd guy that mommy's brother punched and the specs flew!HAHA
He: haha, yeah, those were the days. It was quite funny. hahaha
Me: *thought for a moment* weren't you angry when mommy did that?
He: No, I wasn't angry. I was upset. But you know, when you love someone, you cannot force
them to be with you. That shouldn't be the way. Love is about giving not taking. If your
mommy wanted very much to go with that nerdy guy, I wouldn't have been able to do
anything either. Once a girl makes up her mind, its quite fixed
Me:Haha..right. Wait, back to the question, what gf you had AFTER mommy? You both BROKE
UP before??
He: Yup, we broke up for several years and each led on our own lives. I had a few relationships
but none of it was too serious. Somehow, after those few years, I met your mommy again. It
felt as though we never parted.
Me: oo...
He: From the very beginning when I saw her, I knew that I would love her. I knew that she will
be the one I am going to marry.
Me: Really.....
He: Yes, really. Oh, and your mother was quite a jealous person too! You know-lah, last time I
was considered handsome and quite a few girls liked me. I remember a girl who actually
gave me her photo with some writings on it!
Me: How does she look like? Is she pretty?
He: hmm, she looks pretty and she's a very nice girl. A few of my friends liked her, but I didnt.
Me: what's her name?
He: I don't know?? Forgot.
Me: =.="""
Me: How was your relationship like with mommy?

*start of advice*

He: You know, if I were to tell you of all the stories that we went through..it could be as thick as
a book. You have to know that..in this world, there is no perfect person and if you are
searching for a perfect person to be your partner, it would never work. It's a bout BEING
perfect with your partner and accepting the person together with his flaws. If you really love,
and I am talking about true love, not all the puppy love where people just keep saying
"i miss you" thousands of times a day, you would sacrifice for that person. I can tell you
honestly, in this whole relationship of me and your mom, I am the one who is willing to
sacrifice for her the most. You must learn how to give in sometimes..learn how to appreciate
and learn how to forgive. In every relationship there may be flaws, there may be arguments
but it's up to the couple to figure out if they are willing to repair that flaw instead of just
throwing it away with a simple divorce or a break up.
Me: You love mommy even now at 50?
He: Yes I do.

My father would do loads of stuff for my mom..like..a random heart shaped waffle or some random praises and hugs. Sometimes, when she's tired, my dad would even give her free massages. haha. =)

Maybe it's just me..but..I feel that it just seem so rare these days to actually witness a loving couple at their age..I've always wanted to see a miracle. And now, I know I have seen. My parents are my miracle. They are the inspiration of what I want to become.

I've seen many people around me experiencing parents who are apart and families who are having problems everyday.
Why can't they learn? I wish I could share with them, the knowledge that my dad has shared with me. I wish they could see that it IS possible to still be in love, even if you're married for more than 30 years. I wish there weren't so many divorces, so many break ups, so many people getting hurt.

If only they knew..that all it takes is a simple act of love..and to listen.
Just listen...and don't give up.