For the past few weeks I've been going for the "relationship series" sermon at CHC and I found it really relevant to me. :)

I've learnt that women and men are different in SO many ways and it really made me think about my own behaviour while I'm in a relationship.

It is said that women can be emotional all of a sudden (even if there is no apparent reason) and could be triggered by almost anything while men thinks that it is highly impossible for someone to go into the emotional zone if there's nothing upsetting them. Sounds familiar? =/

I have to admit I am a very emotional person and I tend to think too much sometimes. At times I can be really happy and when something just strikes me, I'd go all quiet. It kinda hit me..that I shouldn't be that way because it's really unfair to the guy who did nothing wrong. :( Agreed? This shall be another reminder to myself : I choose to be happy! No more emo-ing Regina~!

Another important lesson to note: "True love is not just about falling in love but also staying in love".

Ever felt like you're in Utopia the first time you met a guy/girl whom you think is just sooo right for you?.. That when you're with them, everything is just perfect and you'd wish time would stand still so that you could just be there with them for eternity?..Everything about him/her is just perfect and all the flaws about them seems like nothing to you. You're willing to overlook everything and anything he/she does because you're floating on cloud 9...You're promise the stars, the heaven, the sun, the moon...yadda yadda..I'm sure you know what I mean.

Then..a few months down the road..these heavenly feelings seem to fade off and *boom* you're back on earth. Welcome home to reality people! You begin to see that "perfect" guy or girl of yours has that annoying habit of ................ (fill in the blanks yourself). You no longer go for romantic dates or have that particular "i love you baby", "no I love you more baby", "no I love you the most baby" kinda *spark*. This is where the test of your so called "I love you forever" relationship starts. Are you willing to overlook those flaws? Do you actually expect your partner to be handsome/beautiful/caring/supportive/perfect all the time? Let's face it, we're all humans and there is NONE who are perfect.

For me, a really happy relationship starts when the couple are able to be themselves with each other. There's no need for pretend and lies. There's no need to impress and you're able to have a great time even if it's just watching the tv at home or cooking a meal together. They are able to talk things out instead of shouting it out. The silences between the two of you wouldn't feel awkward at all.

My mom always told me, "If you and your bf are arguing almost everyday, it is an unhealthy relationship. You should either find a way to communicate better with each other or just end it. Because your partner is supposed to make you happy.. not the other way around." How true is that?? Girls/guys, if your partner is making you cry all the time, LEAVE before it's TOO LATE! Trust me, I know. If a person really loves you, they would try their best not to hurt you. There may be times they say or do things which un-intentionally hurt you..but none of that would be on purpose. Soo..please please please, don't ever believe a person when he/she says that "I lied because I love you". There is NO such thing.

One of my aunt made a wrong choice in marrying a man like that, and now..she's suffering for the rest of her life.. Because..it was too late. She always serves as a reminder to me..about how important it is to marry the right man. You see, he was the guy who went to disco's, karaoke's, drank and took drugs throughtout the courtship. In the past, many people tried to tell her..but she didn't listen. Now? I have a bastard who I'm forced to call my uncle and he's been doing so many things throughtout the marriage that's been hurting her so much.

So this part, is specially for you girls who were as stupid. If your guy is like THAT and you KNOW about it, just let it go. It's really not worth it. Some of my good guy friends tell me, they'd get so annoyed when a girl comes to them and tell them about their major problems with their bf (bf cheated, hit, shouted, humiliated them in public and etc)..yet, she doesn't want to leave him because she claims that she loves him too much.

I have to admit that girls can be too stupid and too blinded by love. And I wanna say sorry to those people whom I have not listened to in the past.

and.. I have to say.... that I was one of those stupid girls, but you know what? Everything works out for the better. Trust me when I say that.. you will be much much happier when you've finally taken up the courage to let everything go. Those feelings that you think are gone forever.. will eventually come knocking on your door the moment you're willing to throw all those past hurt away.. the feelings may be even stronger than before..because.. you would've learned how to appreciate a good person. =)

Now the question is...for those girls who are in a bad relationship right now: how hard do you wanna fall before you finally wake up????

That's all for today peopleeee.......Forgive me if there are any grammatical/spelling errors cuz I'm too lazy to check. Have a good day yeah? ;)