When people ask me...
"When's your ideal age to get married?"
I'd always reply "Probably around 27-28? I'm guessing that's when I'd have more stability"
And the answer I'd get from most people would be
"oh! that's SO YOUNG. I prefer to emphasize on my career progression, money, house, etc etc".
Okay, so maybe it's too young for some people but it certainly isn't for me.
If you have your own goal in life to gain all your material things before you want to settle down, good for you. I've got nothing against that. Just don't critise me because I want to get married at the age I see fit?
Maybe most of you don't know this about me:
1. Family and relationships with people I love are the most important to me. I could, in one way, sacrifice anything for the people I love truly. I am not the kind of person who would make superficial friends and try to impress people to like me or make me part of their clique. If they're ok with me, great. If I'm not their cup of tea, buzz off.
2. I can live without a large group of friends, but I cannot live without my family, the one I love and my TRUE friends. Which, by the way, can be counted within 10 fingers. Ok, maybe slightly more than 10. But still, it's not a lot.
3. I love children. Yes, I can forsee that it would be alot of pain and possibly there's a risk where the child could hang out with the wrong crowd and turn bad, but hey, that's a risk you gotta take if you wanna have children. I'd say that I would just try my best.
4. I have always been a family girl. Ever since I was born and it isn't gonna change because I don't get influenced easily. People come up to me and say "hey! I thought you would be a party-goer/clubber now since you were such a good girl in highschool" but the truth is, I am still the same and I hold on to my principles strongly and will not sway for anything.
5. I'm not a feminist. I still believe that sometimes,
some things are best done by men. There must be a reason why God created men and women. I prefer to be the silent guidance at the background, to guide the man the way he should go, but leave him a choice to take his own path as well.
6. I believe that material things will never give me true happiness. Of course, I want to improve in life as I age, but it is not my main motivator. I know that no matter how much I have, I will never be truly happy unless I learn how to be contented with what I have yet still have the drive to succeed not by material things, but by doing something I am passionate about. In fact, I've tried this theory many times. I used to aim for something, work for it, but when I got it, all I wanted was another thing. The cycle goes on, there's no fulfillment.
7. I don't care about contradictory opinions unless it really makes sense. Like I said, my principles are not easily swayed.
**I just realised how much I miss writing my heart out. It eases my mind a little.
